Tapping in jiu jitsu signals to your opponent that you’re admitting defeat. Although this moment can be devastating, it also serves as one of the greatest learning tools of jiu jitsu.
In life, this can be analogous to dealing with rejection. Although the psychological sting is temporary, the personal growth can be profound.
“Unfortunately, the greatest damage rejection causes is usually self-inflicted. Indeed, our natural response to being dumped by a dating partner or getting picked last for a team is not just to lick our wounds but to become intensely self-critical. We call ourselves names, lament our shortcomings, and feel disgusted with ourselves. In other words, just when our self-esteem is hurting most, we go and damage it even further. Doing so is emotionally unhealthy and psychologically self-destructive yet every single one of us has done it at one time or another.
The good news is there are better and healthier ways to respond to rejection, things we can do to curb the unhealthy responses, soothe our emotional pain and rebuild our self-esteem.”
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